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Wednesday, April 25, 2018

AVOIDING BAD TIMES IN LIFE



Life is the best gift you have and you certainly want to live it well. But at times things don’t go the way you had expected it. You just lost a job, you had a divorce, you lost someone very special in your life, or you did not get a well-deserved increment or promotion. Well there are a lot of things that can go wrong without any notice. Most of the time dealing with such situations is very traumatic and a life changing experience. You will feel the hurt, the guilt, the loss, or the anger depending on the situation. But then let’s see how we can overcome such situation or even avoid such situations in life. Let’s start by classifying every situation into those that you can control and those that you cannot control.

The First thing you need to do is to learn to deal with things that you cannot control, get used to it as part of living a life.  You will certainly have to part with your parents one day, some one very close to you may meet with an accident and goes away without any notice. This is life and accept it with grace.

But the most challenging are those situations that you could control but lost it at some point such as relations between family members, friends, spouse, employers, and co-workers. Here are a few things that you can do to manage your relationship such that you can avoid the bad times in life.

1  1. Give sufficient space to people around you and don’t hover over their heads at all times. Everyone needs their own time to be just by themselves. It does not mean that they don’t love you or care for you.

2  2. Control you anger at any cost, anger is the manifestation of your internal problems and not the other person in question. Anything you say when angry will only make the situation worse.

3  3. Understand that relationships are never absolute and you will have to work each day to manage them well irrespective of the type of relationship.

4  4. In a work place, if you feel you deserve something then ask for it because you will never get it unless you ask for it.

5  5. If you want to make a career for yourself then hold only yourself responsible for it. You are the master of your destiny and you have to work hard and with utmost sincerity to be happy with your career. 

6  6. Remember that if someone says that money is not important in life then either they have too much of it or they don’t have the capacity to earn it. Also remember that making money honestly is not easy but that is the only way you will be happy at the end of the day.

7  7. If you want to have a great relationship with your spouse follow these three rules. First, only one person talks at a time, second, if you don’t have anything good to talk about the parents of your spouse then don’t talk about them, finally understand that when things go wrong you are both responsible for it and only you can fix it.

8  8. Take care of your parents with no expectations. Never forget the time that they would hold your finger and walk you through the difficult terrain of life, it’s your turn now but more likely you will run from your responsibility. Treat them with very high level of dignity.

9  9. Everyone may leave you including your very close relatives but your childhood friends are always going to be there for you. So never give up on your close friends who have crossed all timelines to be with you.

1  10.Finally, be yourself and let everyone around you be themselves. Your way is not always the only way to do things. If you love your spouse go ahead and tell them how much they mean to you. Make a call to your old friend and tell them how much you miss them, forgive everyone for what they have done to you in the past. Let them know right now before one of you are gone forever.                                                              
     
     HAPPY READING AND GIVE YOUR COMMENTS PLEASE.

2 comments:

  1. Space, communication, expectation,
    making money, temperament are all conscious choices one can pursue but yet there is no guarantee that life will offer u the best. Individually one has to assess the situation you are into and then have a magnanimous view of life to be happy and peaceful. Now a days most of the situations of our life are from beyond the syllabus we were prepared or modelled.

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  2. Very well said, Sir.
    "Powerful message on how to live a Great Life. Life is really too complex but if these little things are followed it would be so simple to live.

    *B E H A V I O R*
    Is Sometimes
    *Greater*
    Than *Knowledge,*
    Because In Life There
    Are Many Situations
    Where *Knowledge*
    Fails But *Behaviour*
    Can Handle *E V E R Y T H I N G.*

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