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Monday, March 3, 2014


It is believed that this universe was not created by accident but by a pre-planned design. Life was probably created to enhance the beauty of the universe or so I may think. Does it mean that the creator still controls your life or have you given up on him and allowing others to control your life on earth. This is a question that I have been asking myself for the last few months and have been trying hard to find an answer. May be the answer lies in our inner self which we seldom try and consult and when we do consult we don’t take the advice.
All of us are here for a purpose; or is there a purpose for us to be born as such an insignificant part of this universe. The vastness of the universe over runs our existence and thus makes us so small in relations to the dream of the creator. Certainly, it is the power of togetherness that might have been the dream of the creator as that gives immense strength which is superior to our individual efforts. Then why is it that we are unable to hold hands for a common goal? Is it our materialistic view of life that becomes the black film in front of our eyes?
We all want to be happy and that is what drives our actions irrespective of how we define happiness. But is our happiness dependent on the actions of others? To a great extent the observations that I internalize lead to the conclusions that we choose to be happy or unhappy based on what we our self-choose to do or not do. Happiness is not determined by what’s happening around you, but rather what’s happening inside you.  Most people depend on others to gain happiness, but the truth is, it always comes from within.
One of the key elements for all of us to think is who is really controlling our life on earth as this will eventually help us in understanding the path to true happiness. My observation has always centered on the ability of other people around us who control our life and more so because we allow them to do so. The key to being happy is to try and keep away from people who emit negative energy. These are people who will try and control your mind and not allow you to be YOU. They normally present themselves and your adorable well-wishers and at times you will feel that there is no one in this world who is more concerned about you. They tend to poison your mind to an extent that you tend to believe them but the fact is that all they are trying to do is to control you emotionally so that you break down to an extent that you are not able to differentiate between what is good for you.  
There is another way that such people try and control you by talking about you to others such that you get to hear from the grapevine. This is an old trick from a magician’s hat and you need to be very careful about it. The devious trick is very simple; once you hear something bad about yourself from others, you tend to lose your focus from the good work you are doing and you become part of the grand design planned by them. Now they have your attention in those areas that will not let you rest in peace. The result is anger, frustrations, and sense of loss of dignity. But as you can see this is what they wanted in the first place and now they are controlling all your actions. They are now controlling your actions and thoughts. So when you hear anything of this type about yourself. Have the courage to confront and put an end to it immediately, or you have the strength to ignore it as if it never took place. Remember these are the people who are trying to control you and distract you from the path you are travelling. They do not have an objective in their life and they cannot see others being happy.
So the next time when you come across such people you should know that your happiness is not going to be in their hands and you will not let it happen with yourself. Look around the people who are around you and you will see those faces hidden behind the mask of humility and goodness.
Take charge of your life as it is the only one you have and don’t let others control it. Happy reading and looking forward to your comments.


  1. Beautifully expressed thoughts sir. I would just like to comment from other perspective. We all know that it is very difficult to really keep our presence of mind when one is really upset or is undecided. As a social animal, any human will first look at his surrounding for support. In that mental state, however alert or intelligent one may be; somewhere someone is required to be trusted. How to identify is not an easy job. It can be done only by experiences over a period of time. So till we really become expert why not we first of all do some introspection and see “Are we controlling someone, knowingly or unknowingly”, so let’s free them first.

  2. I agree with you Hemlata, my point was exactly that, we need to be free from it to ensure we are not controlled by anyone. It is important that we don't do the very thing that we are trying to ensure that others should not do. That is the reason that we all have to be inward looking as well.