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Friday, February 24, 2012

OpenBook: DON’T CARRY YOUR PAST

OpenBook: DON’T CARRY YOUR PAST: Sorry I have not written much this month. The work pressure has been very high and there is so little time left for anything. This month...

DON’T CARRY YOUR PAST

Sorry I have not written much this month. The work pressure has been very high and there is so little time left for anything.

This month I met a lot of people who I thought were very uptight about life. It seems as if the world has come to an end for them. But then when talking to them I realized what a beautiful world we live in and how we can make the best of what we have. Are we not blessed to be what we are?

Some times in life we come to a point where nothing seems to go right for us. Everywhere we put out hands, things just go wrong and it looks like the invisible had is working against you. We get into the frame of mind that keeps taking us to the past. We begin to live a life of illusions and seldom are able to look at the reality as it faces us in the present. It is however important for us to understand a couple of fact about life and living it. Think of this situation: the only thing that is certain about our life is its end. We know this to be the ultimate reality; now there is nothing worse that can happen to you than knowing that you will not be there forever. But we live life with a smile without ever thinking about it. May be the fact that we don’t know when it will come gives us so much of hope for the eternal life. So if we can go on with our life even when we know the worst case scenario, what is it then which can be worse than this that makes us so sad in life. I believe that it is due to the fact that a lot of us like to carry the baggage of the past and regret some of the decisions and actions that we have taken.

Life is about living in peace, the mind, the body and the soul have to be aligned both internally and externally for a journey that has too many roadblocks in life. Our objective has to be find ways to overcome these roadblocks and be prepared for them before they hit you where it hurts. I have always found that it helps to live in the present because it gives you an opportunity to add to your future and keeps you away from the past. It is never possible that you will never go into a flashback in past. We will all do that once in a while, but the important thing is not to get stuck in it for ever. The understanding that past can only help us in forging a better present and hopefully a clearer future is critical to living a good life. The reason that we should focus on the present is because it is likely to become your past tomorrow. It is thus possible each day to change our past based on what we today in our present. So if you intend to have great memories of your past, it is never late to start today. That is the funny side of our past. Sometime people feel you can change the past but in reality you can change your past through a focus on your present. Every day that goes by you are changing your past and adding new things in it.

Sometimes it helps if you begin to appreciate your past in life even if it has not been great by even your standards set for self. You will begin to love the small gains that you make each day as at times life is about relative good or bad. Because things have not gone the way we intended, even a small achievement gives us immense pleasure. We all need to begin to enjoy these small steps that we take in life.

If you are one of those that are always lost in the past, you have a reason to be worried and you have to find a way to come out of it and begin to live a life in the present. This is more because you are giving up so much of your present that it will have a major impact on your future. One way that has worked for me when I am lost in the past has been to find something creative to do. Engage yourself in an activity that will take your mind off from the past and divert all your latent energy into a creative cycle. This where having a hobby can be of great help. Sometime we take the help of friends to talk it out. It is not about talking out it is more about getting over with it. Personally I am a creative type of person, when i don’t want to think too much about the past and if it does not let me go of it, I find ways to forget it. I sometimes make animal figures out of plaster of Paris. I get so lost in trying to make them as close in look as the real animals that there is no other thought that comes to my mind. Try something like this when the past begins to haunt you.

I hope you enjoyed reading it.. but do think and stay in the present because that is where your future is.