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Saturday, July 30, 2011


The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings, but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower view points. We spend more, but have less; we buy more, but enjoy it less.
We have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, but less time; we have more degrees, but less sense; more knowledge, but less judgment; more experts, but more problems; more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry too quickly, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too seldom, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We've learned how to make a living, but not a life; we've added years to life, not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbor. We've conquered outer space, but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things. We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've split the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait.

We build more computers to hold more information to produce more copies than ever, but have less communication. These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion; tall men, and short character; steep profits, and shallow relationships. These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare; more leisure, but less fun; more kinds of food, but less nutrition. These are days of two incomes, but more divorce; of fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throw away morality, one-night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer to quiet, to kill.

It is a time when there is much in the show window and nothing in the stockroom; a time when technology can bring this letter to you.
By: George Carlin

Wednesday, July 27, 2011


People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself. But the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates. ~Thomas Szasz,

 Have you ever been in a situation where you are in a thick jungle and don’t know where to go or find your way back to humanity. May be you have not been in such a situation but certainly you must have been a situation in life when you have thought what do I do now, I am so confused about where do I go from here in life.

If you have thought about it, then you are not alone. In such situations there is a general tendency to focus on what went wrong but we seldom reflect back to understand what went wrong with us as individuals. The trick is to be able to find yourself early enough in life to make a difference for us and for those who we are connected with. In this blog I want to touch up some aspects of finding yourself. These are my personal views and are open to your own interpretations.

Finding yourself is more of an art rather than a science, thus it is something that can be practiced and perfected over a period of time. The seeds of this art are planted fairly early in our teenage years and they continue to grow with us. The more I think of this subject the more I begin to feel and ask questions as to why most people don’t get it right. It all begins with one simple philosophy: Just be true to yourself and everything else will begin to fall in its place. Imagine a typical day in your life and ask this question to yourself and be very honest about your answer. What did I do today and how has it impacted me and the people around me? If you are at the work place, then ask if you have done something that makes you a better person as compared to yesterday. I meet so many people at work place who just kill their time not doing anything. They just wait for the month to be over and to take that salary. Remember that if you accumulate wealth without working for it, the chances are it will go as fast as it came. Some people don’t think of it this way, they feel that everyone else is a fool. They live in a utopia created around them.

The first foundation for finding yourself is to begin to be honest with yourself and you will find all the answers to your problems at work and life in general. But we all define honesty as per our convenience. We feel that not reporting our income for tax purposes is not dishonesty or that it is a socially accepted form of dishonesty. So our tendency is always to justify everything we do wrong as acceptable form of dishonesty. This makes us what we are and not what we should be in the first place. Now please go ahead and ask yourself another question. Have you ever done something where your inner self told you it is wrong? You have your answer..if you are going to be true to yourself. Now don’t become defensive and accept the reality about yourself. This is the beginning of the start of the process of finding yourself.

Now begin to look at life in general as keep asking questions about yourself. If you are going to be true to yourself, then all the answers will come to you and you will begin to see yourself in real light. It will be an awakening that we all need to go through. This does not mean that you will never make mistakes. Remember that mistakes are inevitable in life but mistakes are those that you make with good intent. If your intent of the task is bad to start with then it is not a mistake, it is a planned effort at deception. This type of understanding is required if you want to find yourself.

Have you ever thought of what other people around you think of you as a person? What is it that makes some people very popular and some with who no one wants to associate? Which group do you belong to? Well we all have friends and they will like us. But remember they are supposed to like us as they share the same frequency with you. It is like tow musical instruments being played in perfect harmony. What are those evil designs from within us that don’t allow our frequencies to match with all? I have found that if you have a genuine interest in the welfare of others, you are very likely to have a matching of frequencies. After all our life is too short and we need to learn to care for others. The world is a beautiful creation and the creator has a design for all of us to live in harmony. This is another way to begin to find our self in context of the real world that we live in.

I do hope you will think on the issues listed and begin to find yourself sooner than later..

Happy Journey of finding yourself.

Tuesday, July 26, 2011


Have you ever wondered about the life that you are living and how that has changed you to what you are today? I was today forced to ask myself this question. Do I run my life the way that I want it or do I run my life the way others want it. There are too many people among the others, so I decided to think about it and write this blog. I hope you will think about this aspect of life and living.

All of us are in one way or the other living a life that we may feel is a compromise with reality. We are always trying to do things to make sure that people around us are happy. They could be friends, relatives, parents, wife and the children. There is nothing wrong in this; perhaps the eastern philosophy requires us to do so. I feel that it becomes an issue once you do things only to please the people around yourself. I am specially amazed by the extent of sacrifice women make in India to ensure that their families are protected even at their cost. However, I feel that your loss of identity as an individual, a soul, a living being with flesh and blood Is the worst thing that can happen to you. It is necessary to ensure that you can live a life of your own, where you tend to be what you are in real life. You don’t need to pretend to be someone who you are not even with those you love and care so much about. Here are some tips on how you can be who and what you are. Try them and you will begin to feel good about yourself.

1.       Even if you are a home maker or one who has the sole responsibility to run the family, it is important that you take some time out for yourself. Time not doing anything for anyone, just spending time for yourself, where you can reflect on yourself.

2.       Spend one day a week where the whole family spends time together.  Togetherness is about being with each other in everything, from cleaning to cooking. For just one day a week, may be a Sunda,y you can be just friends with your spouse. It is a great part of living life together.

3.       Take a day in about two weeks to spend time with your friends for a few hours. It is form of stress buster when you have the pressure of the family on your head.

4.       Take one day to be in your best form. Dress up and pamper yourself, you will surprise everyone and you will get the best compliments. This has a very positive impact on life and our thinking about us.

5.       Always think positive even in the worst conditions. Sometimes it is ok to just think and not talk too much. You are considered an intelligent person till you open your mouth.

The most important thing to remember is that we all need to live a life that we feel comfortable. A life that we want to be part of, a life that gives us the confidence to be our self. This would require that some times in the initial stages we may hurt some people because they are so used to us living a life for them. It is ok to sometimes ask this question; why should I be the one to sacrifice everything, my individuality, my ambitions, my life.

Just try from tomorrow to make sure that you talk about what you want in life.. we all have to achieve something in life.. keep the search going and think how you can be yourself.

Keep thinking

Thursday, July 21, 2011


1. Thou shall not worry needlessly about mistakes:
You aren’t unworthy or incapable just because you made some mistakes. Remember that mistakes are necessary for growth.

2. Thou shall not control things:
Your way is not always the best way. Remain open minded, and don’t worry if things don’t go as expected.
3. Thou shall not blame others:
Don’t make others responsible for your happiness. You are in control of your happiness, and you can choose to make the day a positive one.

4. Thou shall not worry:
Don’t worry about the things you cannot change or have no control over. Have faith that storms never last long and tomorrow will be brighter.

5. Thou shall never surrender:
You must try to climb that hill even when it seems too steep. No matter how difficult the task seems, it’s better to try than to wonder if you could have succeeded.

6. Thou shall grow:
Never think that you have to stay where you are in life. Every new day offers an opportunity for change.

7. Thou shall not judge others harshly:
Try to accept other people for who they are. Just because some one is different from you, doesn’t mean they are inferior. Everyone was created in God’s image.

 8. Thou shall not fret over other’s opinions:
Not everyone will like you, and some people will criticize you, but you must not feel unworthy. You need no one’s approval to be you.

 9. Thou shall not doubt your ability:
You should always have faith in yourself. Refuse to give the negative voice in your head an audience.

10. Thou shall not fix the world:
It’s good to help others, but remember that you cannot fix everyone’s problems.

Note: I have found these to be very appropriate to follow as important areas of life and living on a daily basis. I hope you will enjoy them. I got these from a source that I do not remeber at this point inm time. I hope you enjoy them and can follow some of these.

Tuesday, July 12, 2011


With the growth of private universities in India and every state in a rush to create new universities, the demand for people at leadership positions for these universities is on the rise. Where are these leaders going to come from and what will it take to create the great private university in India?

I am of the view that there is still some time before we achieve that objective of the great private university of India. The conditions are not yet in existence for such a university to be created. Having said that, I believe that we are now moving in the right direction and we should begin to see some good private universities emerge. It is important to note that most private universities in India are brick and mortar projects and thus leadership required for such projects is very different from an existing university in the public domain. The tragedy of public universities is that they are so political in character that the nature of leadership has almost no impact on its functioning and academic environment. Given such a situation there is a lot of room for private universities to challenge the academic domain of public universities. The elements of good leadership for private universities will have to have the following:

  1. Ability to have a great vision which can be supported by the promoters and the power to convince the stakeholders to have a long-term perspective for the university. Good universities are not made overnight, they take time and a lot of money to achieve the status of a center of excellence. The promoter can only be founder as the university should outlast his existence and should become larger than life concept.
  2. University leadership should understand that universities are not built for today; they are the creators of the future of the Nation and focus their academic process in that direction.
  3. Times have changed and universities cannot teach anything to anyone and thus they should focus their attention of creating an academic environment where learning is promoted at all levels of instruction and research. This would require academic leaders to shift their attention to finding new ways of doing things.
  4. Leadership at Universities will have the increasing challenge of finding the right people who have a desire to be in the field of academics. Teachers by default are becoming the norm these days and a large number of people who have not been able to make into the industry seem to be finding academics as an option. This trend is destructive to the very nature of universities. The academic rigor of universities with such faculty will always be a question mark in the field of education.
  5. University leadership has to ensure that the interest of the faculty members is protected and insulated from the pressures of the promoters who may not have a clear understanding of the long-term character of a university system. Salary and benefit packages of the faculty have to become at par with that of Industry to attract the best from the market. The faculty has to be provided sufficient incentives and encouragement to excel in their field of specialization. We cannot have faculty members teaching 20 hours and expect them to be good at research as well…where is the time for it..
  6. Leadership in a team environment is the need of the day in private universities. Everyone is working towards achieving the same objective of creating a unique university of the future.
  7. Leaders in private university have to create an environment for research and publication and avoid distributing academic designation to everyone. Handholding will be required in the initial stages and will require the push to create some sources of funding for research centers.
  8. They need to be visionaries who are not going to be worried about giving up their jobs and moving on it they are not allowed to do what they are supposed to do in creating a university. Those that keep wagging their tails at the call of the master are not likely to make great universities.

These are just some thought and hope to keep adding to this though process...